If you are set to have fun, to learn about yourself and others, and to develop social skills, you can enjoy any given date.
On the other hand, if you fix on meeting your "soul mate", it is virtually certain you will not enjoy any given date, nor the game itself. (No Assumption, No Expectation, No Frustration for New Inspiration)
A successful relationship is built on 3Cs: Communication, Caring, and Commitment. You can give these to another ONLY IF you can give them to yourself 1st. Consider using this affirmation daily: "I Love & Appreciate Who I Am, How I Am, What I Do!"
Most people disempower themselves, at times mercilessly, with negative evaluations of themselves and others. Dude relax! Don't take rejection personally: "chemistry" has nothing to do with who you are!
Don't expect your first date with anyone to be the one. An ideal partnership requires shared values and life-style preferences; compatible goals; complementary personalities; and similar expectations of (and capacity to nourish) a relationship, in addition to chemistry.
So, Go meet with lots of people and if you relax and allow things to just unfold, you'll be able to enjoy and get to know your date and you can discover other kinds of valuable relationships if you're not just focused on romance. And, men, you need to know that "friends" can become lovers, if you're patient, respectful and loving: a true friend!
Be genuinely interested in your date, and ask them questions about their life, their interests, work, friends and family, hobbies and preferred fun activities, etc. It's critical to balance showing interest in the other person and making room for them to show interest in you: if you're always pursuing, it's likely your partner will retreat!
If you feel comfortable, safe and mutually attracted with your new friend/date, then it may be appropriate to explore sexuality...It is critical to know what sex means to your partner: don't assume anything, ask them. You also need to respect and admire each other as people: you simply can't build a satisfying relationship without these two qualities.
Chemistry is important, but it can distort your thinking. Sexual feelings stimulate a myriad of chemicals in the body, which are proven to alter perception like drugs. So exceptional care and consciousness are called for! If you have a history of crash and burn relationships, it's a good idea to get feedback from your friends, before you jump in.
